My mind shift: Going From being dependent to becoming independent.

Do people prepare for adulthood? Just wondering because when i was a child, I never ever taught of the responsibilities that was attached to being an adult. All I thought about was what I would eventually become in the future but thinking about bills and other things that comes with adulthood was never in my mind.

Truth be told, adulthood is a very challenging stage. In fact it is a stage that is divided into two. From being independent to becoming the dependent of others. I think the latter is more difficult because it is like all your hardworking and efforts is just to feed other people. This is the stage where you start avoiding some calls because you don't want anyone to bill you for any reason.

At this stage, I am sure you will think of when you were just asking for things and boom, you get them from your parents or your guardian. I miss this stage actually. Back then in school, my parents will ensure that I have what I need ranging from paying my school fees, to feeding, clothing and so on. But when I think of how much I will spend for some of these things, I will just hold myself and manage the ones I have now.

It hurts when you finally get to help someone after working and then you don't get that grateful vibes from them. I once helped a friend who asked me some money. I told him I didn't have the exact amount he needed but however I would send the little I have. I sent him what I had and he called back to say that what I sent to him wouldn't go anywhere for him to solve his problem. What an act of ungratefulness. Since then, I stopped talking to him because it hurt me so badly. People do not know what it even takes someone to want to help you. If anyone despite this kind of messed up economy show up for you, you should be more than grateful to that Person.

Imagine going to work for 30days in a month only to finally spend it on someone else. People should understand the kind of sacrifice others make to help them. Over the radio one time, a guy called in to complain how he cannot even boast of a penny he has saved because once his salary comes, he will divide it and send to his mum and his brothers. He said he was tired and wanted to start focusing on himself henceforth.

Now imagine if he tells his family this decision of his, what do you think they will say? Of course he will begin to look bad in their eyes and they will even say he is becoming stingy. And if he has a wife or girlfriend, they will tie the reason of the issue to her. That's because they are now use to collecting and not even thinking of giving back.

When you start making money on your own, you will understand that giving a penny to someone is not easy.

The sacrifice of giving

When I was younger, I didn't know the sacrifices my parents made to ensure that I didn't go to bed hungry. My dad was a driver while my mum was a petty trader. They both worked really hard to feed and clothe us. I remember one time when things were really rough for us and we couldn't even afford milk to take out tea. My mum would give us just Lipton and small biscuits to eat. I remember vividly that song she use to sing when the going was really down.

I go manage the one I get ooo 🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶

She will sing this song to us and we will happily drink whatever was given to us like that. Even though we would feel bad at first for not being able to take creamy tea, we still managed. I also remember when I was chased out of school for not paying my school fees. My mum had to borrow money from a relative to ensure that my school fees was paid.

As an adult, whenever I look back at those times, I would just cry because I honestly didn't value those times. I am one of those persons who say Thank you to anyone for giving me something no matter how little it is. I hear people say if you work for it, why should you say thank you for getting paid for what you worked for? Well, I honestly don't have an answer to that but I think it is something that I just do effortlessly always.

You won't understand how much sacrifice it is to give until you start giving. When I have a shoot, I wake up as early as 5am to prepare myself and get back home sometimes 11pm. Imagine how dangerous it is to drive at night for two good weeks back to back. And then when you finally get paid for your own hard work, someone from nowhere will now demand from you.

The choice to give.

Imagine being called stingy for not accepting to give anyone some of YOUR money. Is that not a stupid thing to say to someone who struggles from morning till night? If you are in a country with economic meltdown, you will understand that the spirit of management will automatically enter you.

Now even in that management mood, you still try to squeeze out something and yet it is not appreciated. This can even cause one to be traumatized emotionally.

I have learnt that what matters is how you live your life. Whether or not you choose to assist is a matter of choice. However, being dependent as an adult to another adult is an act of laziness and permit me to add wickedness. No matter how little you get from someone,be appreciative at all times. Because if you look at what you go through to make money, I am sure some people will never want to bring a dime to give anyone.

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