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FINANCIAL ABUSE AMONG COUPLES IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

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Hello everyone and welcome to my blog at this hour. If we are to conduct a brief exercise on the type of abuse that exists I'm pretty sure most people will mention child abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse but most people will not mention financial abuse. This is a form of abuse that most people do not even know they are experiencing in their relationship, especially the unhealthy ones. Well sit back, relax and enjoy all that I have packaged for your reading pleasure.

source It is crystal clear that you are being abused financially in your relationship if your partner unreasonably controls the way you spend your money and other financial resources. In some cases, you may be restricted access to your bank accounts or even stopped from working, not to talk of earning any income. Even when you have to spend, you must state all you need the money for and an account must be made on how you actually spend the money. Of course, it could be that crazy.

Just like every other form of abuse, a person that is being abused financially may find it difficult to come to terms with the fact that they’re being abused due to the subtle technique that is employed by the abuser that makes it looks almost like a norm. In a movie that I saw that inspired this post, the man intentionally abused his wife financially to gain total control over her but not in a direct way. Anyways, it was too late before the woman know what was happening to her.

source It all started when the man cunningly suggested that they open a joint account and save some amount of money in it towards a particular project. Along the line, he started spending the money without her consent and when she got to know and challenged him, he manipulated her to believing he's spending it for a good cause, meanwhile the reverse is the case. The man ensured he did all the possible best to make sure that she's trapped in the relationship.

A man that abuse his wife or a woman that abuse his husband employs one or two different types of abuse - they all work together. For instance, verbal abuse can work together with financial abuse, just the same way sexual abuse can also work handinhand with financial abuse. A man that beats his wife will ensure he restricts every from of finances from her, that is, she would not have the money to try to escape from him. It is when you have money that you will think of escaping to go and rent an apartment for yourself or be able to feed and clothe yourself. It is such a devastating and difficult situation to experience.

source Open your eyes and speak to your senses when you observe that your partner spends your money without your permission, or is feeling entitled to your finances. Well, it is highly recommended that you should be subservient to your husband if you are woman - not doubt about that but shine your eyes and don't let any man play on your intelligence in the name of love. Shine your eyes and don't think with your a$$. Some even go to the extent of threatening to cut you off financially if you refuse to follow their orders - these are threats that they use to get into your head to make you feel obligated and guilty if you refuse to do their bidding.

Financial abuse is something that must not be tolerated whatsoever. It is a heinous act that should and must be condemned. Don't be that man or woman that is suffering in silence. Speak to someone about your situation if you are in any abusive relationship.

All contents are originally written by me, @williams-owb

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Williams Oluseyi is a Linguist by discipline from one Africa's Most Prestigious Citadel of Learning, Obafemi Awolowo University. He developed interest for blogging at very early stage which motivated him to study English Language in College. He is a prolific writer, an inquisitive and judicious reader, to say the least. To get his daily bread, he is currently working in a Logistics company in Nigeria.

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