Why do spenders always become lenders?
Recently, I ended a financially draining relationship or one that would eventually become a financial burden.
It took me almost 4 months to realize this and pick out certain people I've gotten quite fond of who don't need to know about any success I make.
It feels horrible when you have to avoid conversations with people simply because you possibly either earn better than they do or have better control of your finances, making you have more than them most of the time.
The first time I realized I had to control how I spend in the midst of people, not because I didn't have to spend but because I didn't want to face the repercussions of them knowing I had enough to spend, was in my final year in the university.
Over here, everyone looks out for the 'big spender', don't ever let that be you.
During this period, I realized that I had to have when others have and not have when others don't have. There's this unity in complaining about being broke together.
So, let's say we all receive our allowance at the same time. I would spend a little bit less than everyone else. I always make sure I have my necessities and a little here and there for junk, then I keep the rest to use in bits until my next allowance.
Within that same period, I had friends who just had to buy clothes every single month. They just had to get a lot of unnecessary things so often. And then they would run out of money.
Being the only one with money in such a situation would lead to debts. I was wise enough then to avoid being owed too often.
It's necessary to know when to hold up, fold up, walk away and run. It not only saves your finances but also saves your relationships from crumbling. Debts ruin relationships.
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