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The Optical illusionary image that could save your relationships with people.

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The picture up there is the reflection of the exact thing that occurs in our everyday journey . Where we see some certain issues differently, which is very OK.

We are prone to having several different sides on issues due to differences in our background, principles and values. However, it becomes a problem when you become aggressive and resisting about other people opinions.

That picture contains an old woman who might probably need some help while walking, and hopefully it could be you that might render such help. But hey, someone also said "Why help her? ", that's a gorgeous young looking beautiful girl you could actually woo. While the other person become a little bit confused because he sees an old woman who could barely walk.

This could bring arguments where both persons try to get their beliefs into each other heads by all means without even taking the time to listen and understand their views. They are probably listening to reply with no comprehension at all.

"Indeed, What a waste of time!"

You could be insulted by the society for not helping the poor old lady, but you don't see an old woman, you see a classy girl who might not even be in your level.

Seeking first to understand other people opinion becomes the solution to those wrecks in your relationships at work, family and neighborhood.

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Probably, this is what could save your relationships, trying to understand at all cost. The best way to become highly effective is when you tend to listen to someone empathetically irrespective of how you want to put on some defensive mechanism. You need to be open inorder for understanding to set it. Let's break it down to several aspects in our lives;

⚫️Family /Marriage Relationships :

Most times, you can't really keep ourselves under control especially when you have a nagging wife or husband. Once the idea of whatever they are always complaining about is because they are naggers, we will never listen to them. We feel that, it is in their nature to always complain but really, is it?

Taking out time to have a peaceful one on one conversation with your spouse is the very first step in trying to understand. Let's become practical, remove all odds and look straight into your spouse eyes
and just humbly say, "I will really love to understand you, honey, could you take it one step at a time?"

When the above is said rightly, trust me, you have become very effective by saving your marriage. Likewise, this also goes to children.

For kids to love you as a parent, learn how to act like them on some certain situations. Make a big deal of what it is a big deal to them. Don't feel they are pretty to young to understand the pressure you are on especially in giving them attention.

⚫️Work Relationships:

This could and can be the most tedious relationships of all times where different people not just a person, but "people" from different foundational beliefs come together to achieve a common goal. Hey, remember I said different "beliefs", then how come are they trying to achieve same goal especially with same methods? Because of the company? Trust me, it won't be sustainable and even if it is, it is not really what they want.

Trying to have same goal with your collegues entails you to putting aside the beliefs you came in with. Those beliefs can only come as a "suggestion" not argument and that is even after you've fully understood what was being agreed on. With this, you will even create the right atmosphere for people to learn from you.

Many presentations or ideas where never listened to due to the use of wrong approaches.

⚫️Random Relationships :

This entails friendships, the strangers you just recently met and probably, that old man you buy groceries from. In your friendships, always try never to look down on your friends point of view. In high school, I could remember I and my friends were making list of the most handsome guy in class. That very day, misunderstanding sets in between friends. What was the argument all about, it was simply triggered when one said our head captain is the most handsome while the other party disagreed. They ended up not making that list and also pouring out insults that did not even relate to the argument at first. My ears were filled with a lot of secrets being exposed in class.

If only one of them had the understanding that people views matter and can be different. I think the arguments won't be raised, at least no secrets would be spilled. But hey, I heard a lot though:-I

To that stranger, don't always let what people tell you about them be your basis of judgment. First understand them and script your own story about the person. I see friends hating someone because they all decided to hate the person due to just one of them experiencing that very person. It is very necessary to listen to people when they tell you about someone, but it is effective when you go see for yourself which is seeking to really understand them.

In conclusion, we achieve a whole lot when we listen and understand other people. Try it today, spend hours listening to people without replying back, allow them to pour out their heart to you. Then you can process the very right response.

I hope we do learn to understand people opinions, it all matters