A Shift In The Curve: Going From Being Provided For, To Being A Provider
Adulting is very challenging and expensive because it is a stage where you'll need money to satiate almost every need in your life. To graduate from being provided to being independent and then to being the provider is what no one subconsciously prepares for.
Of course, people often relive moments in their childhood when they had at least 80% of what they wanted simply by asking. Everyone misses when they had to always get things by default of being the responsibility of another person. Originally one of the reasons is that leaving the dependency stage is very difficult.
Dependency is A Comfort Zone
Naturally, a lot of people are underappreciative when they're ignorant of the efforts that go into the process of providence. this is because it's always easy to be at the receiving end, sometimes people often underestimate being at the receiving end because they do not understand the effort it takes for the person who is at the other end striving to make money.
Make no mistake, making money is the most difficult thing in life, this is because, in the process of money-making, we're left with having to sacrifice some of our essences. It might be health, time, effort, or skills. However, being a provider becomes even more difficult especially when the provider goes through difficulties, and sacrifices too much to provide.
Losing Is What Makes Gaining Valuable
The Money Sacrifice: Giving Off An Essence
Some people are termed stingy because they're too clingy with their money. However, I tend to think no one is clingy to money, circumstances and some substantial factors are some of the reasons why people choose to be clingy to money. For example, having too little means but more needs hibernates one from being a manager of resources
When I was younger, my aunt was the main provider in the family, her job was virtually paying her little and she had about four mouths to feed including me. She had this set of ingredients she used in cooking because they were very cheap, we hated these ingredients, but because we couldn't feed ourselves, we didn't have the option but to eat them like that.
The Fear Of Having Nothing Revives The Management Skills In Us
Back then, no one really praised the management skills of my aunt. The economic situation was dire, but she found a financial solution to fix a niggling economic problem. We underappreciated her efforts to an extent until we had to become independent and became providers at some point.
Back when I was doing my lower diploma, I had this girlfriend who I often gave some money to support her practical projects. The money was quite meager but that was what I could afford, she often complained so hard about how the money was too small. Naturally, it was small, but she underappreciated my efforts in sorting out my needs with the limited means I had and still managed to squeeze out some to foot at least 10% of her school expenses.
Incuring More Needs In The Face Of Scarcity
In reality, I didn't blame her, when people don't work for the money they're getting, at a point, they grow tired of getting that same amount of money because they're invariably creating more needs as they go and this is the same with almost everyone unless we've learned to curtail it.
There are things we do when we don't have money, and one of them is finding reasons to see the futility in our needs. For example, someone who wants a sweater badly because of the cold might just remember the cold will last only for one month or more. So they'll rather live in that discomfort for one month, not because they want to but because they've channeled the resources for that need into something else.
This means that we're subconscious calculator
........our minds are always weighing in odds, creating a scale of preferences, living the consequences of opportunity costs simply because it's very of limitations in funds. In reality, adulting comes with sacrifices, intentionality, and doggedness, if not we might just fail at it.
I for one, value the experiences I had as an adolescent, even if I didn't appreciate them back then, I guess it was inexperience that played a role in that. Overall, we have to translate our bits of knowledge to the younger generations, by relying on them how difficult it is to graduate from being dependent to being independent, let alone being a provider. This might not make their adulting endeavors rather easy, but it'll prepare them for inexplicable expectations.
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